“If you want something and don’t get it, that means you really didn’t want it, or you tried to bargain over the price.” – Rudyard Kipling
QUESTION: What do you really want?
Everyone is created for a unique purpose – but how many actually find it? How many actually ignore or minimize the “tugging of their heart” and spend too much time living life for another person or another reason? If we actually know our unique purpose – how do we keep the fire of desire lit?
Desire is arguably the reason behind everything we do. It is the foundation of all our achievements. Without desire few if any accomplishments will be seen in our life. It is one of those intangible items of life. Necessary but unseen. Absolutely essential if we want to become successful and have the influence we were intended to have.
Desire is what keeps us from sitting in front of the TV set all evening or even just for a show or two. Desire is what keeps us from going out with friends to the local coffee house and solving all the problems of the world; and studying for a test instead. It is desire that makes us pick up our phone one more time to call a frustrated customer. It is desire that arranges one more business opportunity meeting. It is desire that keeps us going when we feel like it is time to quit.
But desire does not just keep burning by itself. It is just like a campfire that needs to continually be watched, stoked and cared for. More wood needs to be put on. The coals may need to be stirred. We cannot have heat without a flame. We do not want a campfire that just gives off smoke. It might look like there is something there, a potential flame, but that is all – it just looks like something promising. It takes a team to validate and cultivate desire.
Almost everyone at some time or another gets caught up in a passing fancy. Fads come and go. Too often we let our desire operate like a fad. Something comes along and looks appealing so we “give it a try.” We want to see if it is something that will just take off and burn brightly without a lot of effort on our part. Not long after, another opportunity catches our eye and so we give that a try for a little while.
The truth is that success will never be found when we go from one opportunity to the next; never really being committed to learn and perfect the work. These passing moments of desire will never help us get to where we want to go. There are too few people who have a desire burning like a blazing fire; who are committed to discover and keep their fire burning. Top achievers and difference-makers have an obsession to accomplish their goals in life. They know themselves and see challenges as opportunities to learn along the way. When they think about the possibilities and rewards of what they are doing it is like a caffeine injection with an espresso.
We must always have a clear desire for what we want to accomplish or our “end in mind.” If we don’t we will take the first exit that comes along after a disappointment. The proper desire cheers us on. Our desire gives us hope. Our desire gives us inspiration and energy.
Developing a desire does not automatically happen. We must find it, and then feed and care for it. This consuming desire may not quickly or easily be seen or touched. But those around you will know if you have it or not. Those who have great desire are people we greatly respect. So how do you go from good to great? Read our blog on how to be courageous in pursuing your dreams!
Without desire, there is no hope. Without desire, there is no goal. Without desire, there is no spirit. Without desire, there is no flame. Our fire of desire needs to be lit because it is the driving force behind our own success. So, what do you really want?
Remember: passion grows where we discover our true desire. DREAM4 is here to help you find it!Let’s celebrate some positive progress together in the 4th quarter of 2018.
Your DREAM4 Team
FAQs
Desire is arguably the reason behind everything we do. It is the foundation of all our achievements. Without desire few if any accomplishments will be seen in our life. It is one of those intangible items of life.
Why do we desire to be important? ›
The desire to be important is a universal human experience. It's a natural inclination to want to feel valued and appreciated by others, and to have a sense of purpose and meaning in our lives. This desire is rooted in our need for social connection and belonging, as well as our desire for self-esteem and self-worth.
What is the answer for desire? ›
Desire is the emotion of longing or hoping for a person, object, or outcome. The same sense is expressed by words such as "craving".
What is Lewis's argument from desire? ›
The inductive version of Lewis's argument from desire can be stated as follows: Humans have by nature a desire for the transcendent. Most natural desires are such that there exists some object capable of satisfying them. Therefore, there is probably something transcendent.
What is the power of desire? ›
The power of desire is so great that it can even turn your friends into enemies. Your desire to do anything is that driving force which everyone talks about. It is something that is always inside you. It makes wake up everyday with so much energy required to keep you moving on toward your goal.
Why is desire so powerful? ›
It is desire that acts as the fuel to make dreams come true. Desire is very personal. Only you can really know how badly you want something. Desires can get us to muster up the inner energy to move mountains in our effort to achieve our desired results.
What is the most powerful desire? ›
The bodily urge of desire is only sexual in nature; everything else is an emotional state developed out of this primary desire. Whether or not you buy that, it is clear that sexual desire is one of the — if not the — strongest of human needs.
Is desire the key to success? ›
Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek.
What do humans truly desire? ›
There are four basic Desires that define us as humans: Power, Attraction, Comfort and Play. These four Desires are simplified, borrowed, connected, pieced-together versions-of well-studied sociological and psychological literature … which is all rather dense and tough to read.
How does desire affect us? ›
Desire motivates us in many important ways: physical desire, for example, is called hunger or thirst; intellectual desire is called curiosity; sexual desire is called lust; economic desire is called consumer demand. Remove these expressions of desire, and human life as we know it would cease to exist.
Desire is a strong feeling, worthy or unworthy, that impels to the attainment or possession of something that is (in reality or imagination) within reach: a desire for success. Craving implies a deep and imperative wish for something, based on a sense of need and hunger: a craving for food, companionship.
What is the best desire in life? ›
The greatest desire of the human heart is to be loved and accepted. The greatest need of human existence is to belong, connect with another, and know that we are of inestimable value. This is why our greatest joys and most bitter disappointments involve relationships. We'll get to belonging in a minute.
What is conflict of desire? ›
CONFLICTING DESIRES. If two desires conflict, that means that if one of them is satisfied, the other one can't be, and vice versa. You can't both go out with friends tonight and finish your paper that's due tomorrow. If you want to do both, you have a pair of conflicting desires.
What is the desire theory? ›
Desire theory holds that that fulfillment of a desire contributes to one's happiness regardless of the amount of pleasure (or displeasure). One obvious advantage of Desire theory is that it can make sense of Wittgenstein. He wanted truth and illumination and struggle and purity, and he did not much desire pleasure.
What are the natural desire? ›
Desires that are natural such as the desire for food when hungry or the desire for water when thirsty. And there are desires born of our opinion: we will be happy if we have so much money, such and such position, so many friends, so much sex, and so on.
What do desires lead to? ›
But desire looks like our friend, however like a thief, it steals our happiness. This is the real cause for all greed, anger, jealousy, suffering, misunderstanding, conflicts, and even wars. We also need to understand that all objects of our desires are impermanent and uncertain and that they always lead to suffering.
What is the meaning of desire in life? ›
desire is a strong feeling, worthy or unworthy, that impels to the attainment or possession of something that is (in reality or imagination) within reach: a desire for success. craving implies a deep and imperative wish for something, based on a sense of need and hunger: a craving for food, companionship.
Why is desire important in a relationship? ›
Men and women have also expressed the belief that when dating, if partners experience sexual desire for each other, there is a greater likelihood for positive outcomes to emerge in terms of interpersonal closeness as well as a reduced likelihood to experience negative events in the relationship, regardless of the ...
